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Dec 24 2009

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When an old friend ask for help…

What would you do or what would you say?

This is the comment from a beautiful French Lady named “Dany”, short for Marie Danielle…with a very wonderful broken English/French accent that I grew to love! This is my old neighbor from the the San Jose area of California over 18 years ago!

Hello KATHY
Its me DANY from France. My life is a disaster . I do not have the strength to continue my life .
I will explain to you later
Love Dany

Now isn’t that amazing! I have not heard from this incredible woman in all of these years. Her husband Don who is now an “ex-husband” was one of those sport’s fanatics that seemed only to be there for Dany so many years ago to help raise their son…I knew  their son as “Buck”.  My then only son Sterling just over 2 yrs old close to 3 yrs old was not able to pronounce the “ck” sound and could call for Dany’s son only as “Butt”! It is humorous today. My son learned to ride his first training wheel 2-wheeled bicycle on “Butt’s” first bike…I remember the day Don brought it over for Sterling…yes…memories are precious. My memories are also clouded with my fog of alcoholism that the reality of what I do recall is so preciously becomming evident at this time.

I can still hear Dany tell me in her wonderful accent…”K`at`i” you drink too much, you must stop what you are doing…you are a fool “K`at`i! You will kill yourse;f…you must stop! No,  sorry my friends, I did not listen to this French lady with common sense and awareness of how I was detroying my life with alcohol…it took me many, many more years, before I heard Dan’ys words and understood.

So now I hear my friend, with so much wisdom and insight many years ago…telling me that she doesn’t have the strength to continue…her life is a disaster…she will explain to me later…when is later Dany?

I want to reach my friend, unsuccessfuly thus far.  I want to invite her to share of herself with me here on my website…to allow you to folow this journey of a woman in despair as a friend of mine. I will even ask Don, her ex-husband, he adores Dany, and will always love this special woman, his wife, the mother of their now grown child.

This is not presented for entertainment value…only for the value of how we change and grow in our lives. The shifts sometimes comes abruptly …however we know that when we slow down enough…just enough to take a deep breath…we can see that we in fact created the life we live today by our beliefs and choices…and knowing that fact…it is therefore the truth that we can in fact creat a new life based on new beliefs and new choices in any given moment…Dany, can you hear me…can you take this step with me? You are now ready to begin the life you truly desired and dreamed of all your life! If you will take my hand and walk with me…I will take you where you can choose the life you desire. If I can’t  accomplish this with you…I have an incredible life coach that has been guiding me…I’ll gladly introduce you to her…

You were always a strong and courageous woman, nothing ever stopped you before…please continue to connect…life is awaiting you my beautiful friend…the time is now..let us now begin a wondrful journey…the journey of your life, a truly life changing adventure that awaits you! Remember that I love you Dany.

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Jun 27 2009

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From Executive to Ex-Con to a Life Extraordinary!

One of my articles. Sharing more about me with you.

Having it all, losing it all, going to prison and now having the best in life. Alcoholism is a serious addiction. Many people never recover; they die in the depths of the disease. Some of us are fortunate to find our way clear, to make the choice for sobriety in our life and the new life it offers. Coming from the depths of despair to a fulfilling and rewarding life; I’m there!

Achieving success in my early 20’s, I had it all, or so I thought. At least materially I did not want for anything. I was an executive in an airline for many years. I started on the ground floor and worked my way up the corporate ladder very quickly and very well compensated. I was a workaholic.

After many years I finally burned out and resigned my executive position. I opened my own advertising and promotions firm from there and quickly fell into the daily drinking with my business associates. It took a few years before I crossed the line with social drinking to an out of control full blown alcoholic. I fought a battle with the bottle for more than 12 years from the time I realized I really had a problem with alcohol. I could not stop drinking. Alcohol was in control of every waking and passed out moment of my life. I tried rehabilitation programs only to have short lived periods of sobriety. I spent the better part of many years in a blackout state with very little if any memories other than what was told to me by others. Continue Reading »

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