Tag Archive 'Fulfilling Life'

Jan 05 2010

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Taking On The New Year Challenge

Taking On The New Year Challenge

Do you avoid taking a deeper look into your present conditions because of the overwhelming harshness of your self-judgments?

When you evaluate yourself through good or bad, right or wrong rigid thinking, you reduce your perceptions down to dull, and dismal fragments of your reality.

When you still your mind to allow your unfulfilled longings to speak, you begin to soften and surrender into a larger capacity to experience well-being.

If you gently make room for this inner voice, you may hear it telling you there is much, much more to living than you are presently experiencing. You may become aware that you are actually blocking yourself from opening to the fullness and richness that surrounds you, here and now.

How can you find clarity about what is real and what is false about your inner dialogue?

When disturbing feelings about the state of your life begin to surface, it is an invitation to expand your creativity and commitment to bringing new vitality to areas that may have degenerated through neglect.

It takes courage to take this journey. The task is to find your real self, which resides underneath your runaway anxieties and fears.

This takes bravery of a different kind. It is the bravery to show up in the world without the pretense of being better than, or less than, anyone else. It means finding the courage to drop the protective armoring that attempts, but is ill equipped, to keep you safe. Begin to question the false comfort thinking that whispers that it really isn’t necessary to assume responsibility for your present state.

For the start of this New Year of 2010, refuse to remain lulled into lethargy, hoping to receive a better life by being an obedient follower of your status quo. The longing for a fulfilling life is realistic. The clues to fulfillment lie within you. Weed out the attitudes and beliefs that prevent you from experiencing your life as a fulfilling and meaningful quest.

Richness of experience exists on all levels: spiritual, physical, emotional and mental. There is an illusion that is widespread in our society. It is the temptation to use spiritual practices to grab happiness and fulfillment, while avoiding coming to terms with existing negativities, confusion, and pain.

The longing for a rich and rewarding life is valid. You can live without painful confusions. You can function on a level of inner resilience, contentment, and security. You can become capable of deep feelings, and of meeting life without fear.

This state can only be reached by facing and taking ownership of your orphaned fears and misconceptions.

The true challenge is to no longer fear you.

If you want to unravel the mystery that surrounds lack of enthusiasm for your life, start by becoming aware of what you spend your time doing. Your life is defined by what you spend your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual energy on.

What predominant attitudes do you hold for your work, your home, your relationships, your family, and yourself? Do you experience your involvements and commitments as a burden and an energy drain, as a blessing and energy gain, or something in-between?

Asking the tough questions can bring great opportunities with it. In order to set your soul free, it may be time to let go of fear of the wolves of past pain, or disappointment, so that the warmth of enthusiasm can flow once again and gift you with a wellspring of vital involvement from deep within your soul.

Susan teaches mentoring seminars locally. For seminar information or to sign up to receive these articles by e-mail: www.susanvelasquez.com or reach Susan at:               (949) 494-7773        

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May 19 2009

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My Beliefs and Experiences

I believe we create our lives by the choices we make every day. Each of our lives is a culmination of all the choices we have made thus far. So if we aren’t happy with our life today or just want more out of our lives, we can surely change that by making different choices.  

I personally have had many opportunities to learn new life skills on this journey in my life. My personal experience has brought me to living a sober life today, it was a rough journey to get from there to here. You need not be in recovery as I am to benefit from the experience of other’s. I am fortunate to have great teacher’s and mentor’s on my journey.

We have all faced a variety of challenges in life. I believe each challenge presents itself as a lesson for us to learn and grow from. Change is constant, it never stops, something is always changing. We have a choice in everything in our lives. This is life’s terms. How we live those terms is up to us.

My personal experience reveals that change is one of the most difficult areas for the personal growth needed to become the woman I desire to become. It is my experience that change is also the most rewarding time in life. Without change, we are stagnant, we are not experiencing any growth.

Life at its fullest is what my brother Jim termed as the “Four ‘L’s”: living, loving, learning and laughing. We sell ourselves short when we resist the necessary changes or don’t create the changes we want to see. This is not living life. This is a compromise that we need not accept for our lives. We each deserve a fulfilling life, we have the power within us to create the life we want.

We can learn to change our views and beliefs about change and change our choices for the changes we want to see in our life today. What a facinating place to be. Changes, choices, thoughts, beliefs; all things we are actually in control of, or at least how we experience them. To create the life we desire to set the terms by which we live our lives. Living our life on life’s terms is choosing the life we want and the terms we want to experience life by. That sounds a bit complicated when I put it like that. Actually it’s all simply a matter of choice.

It takes an honest and pure desire to create the changes we want in our lives. When we realize that we can change how we experience the unexpected changes and know that we can create the changes we desire for our lives…our live’s are forever changed. Change is the only constant in our lives…think about it.

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